What does the Bible say about homosexuality?

I never really understood why homosexuality was so bad in God’s eyes.

Of course, I know that God commands us not to engage in it and that command is enough for it to be a sin. But I still just didn’t understand what was so harmful about it. And I’m not talking about queer people who have open relationships and sleep with whoever—obviously, that’s going to be harmful at some point. But how about queer people who are in a monogamous relationship that appears to be working for them, that is making them happy and improving their life?

People who were depressed and couldn’t find love but are now in long-lasting relationships that give them a glow they’ve never had before when they were in relationships with the opposite sex. As we know, lack of success in relationships with the opposite sex speaks to a spiritual curse, but I don’t want to focus on that right now. Let’s just focus on the implications of either being in a monogamous queer relationship or constantly pursuing one.

I think I understand finally why it’s wrong, regardless of how happy it makes people. This idea started to come together when I was listening to Pastor Kevin LA Ewing teach about why consorting and agreeing with mediums, psychics, and false prophets is so bad. Not only is it bad because you’re engaging with people who are working with evil spirits, but we have to also remember that the goal of these evil spirits is to curse (limit) and destroy humans, especially through a lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6). And one of the ways they do that is through changing destinies.

But in order to change a destiny, that person, whether knowingly or unknowingly, has to come into agreement with that spirit or that changed destiny. If a medium tells you that you are destined to have a certain job or pursue a certain person, and they make it sound nice or in line with what you want, why wouldn’t you agree to it? Why wouldn’t you claim it? But what that divination spirit isn’t telling them or you is that by agreeing to this new destiny, you’re not only pursuing something outside of what God has planned for you, but you’re also bring limitations/curses upon yourself by coming into covenant/agreement with this spirit.

How does this apply to homosexuality?

The principle is the same. When you come into agreement with the spirit of homosexuality, you deter your God-given destiny and bring limitation upon yourself. But then, once again, how is that the case when you are happier than you’ve ever been in a queer relationship? When you’re in a relationship that has been going strong for 10-20 years, longer than any other relationship? When you have a partner that treats you with more respect than any other you’ve had before?

While these all sound good and may have given you a boost in certain areas of your life, you are still on the wrong track. Just because something seems good to us or even brings us happiness doesn’t mean it is actually good. For one, we can’t base our ideas of good or bad based on what we think or feel because those ideas are often worldly—those ideals have been shaped by other humans and they’re constantly shifting.

One day it’s right and good to do one thing, the next it’s not. But when we rely on God’s ideals for right and wrong, a God who is more ancient than the universe itself, who knows everything, who’s seen everything, who never changes, and most of all, has your best interest at heart, we can trust we won’t be led astray. Because of this, it makes logical sense to listen to God over humans—the Creator over the created.

If God tells us something is wrong or that something is for our own good, it makes sense to listen to him, even if we feel that we’re doing something good or right in the moment. Because we don’t have the same eyes that he does. We’re bound to time—we can only look to our past, present, and experiences of others for wisdom. God is not bound by any of these limitations because he’s outside time itself.

So, with all this being said, God, knowing everything that has happened, is happening, and will ever happen, puts humans on this Earth at appointed times to fulfill appointed tasks that are aligned with his Will—with his knowledge of what is best for all of creation. But if we’re operating outside of that Will, outside of the appointed destiny that God has given for us, not only have we failed the mission God has given us, but we’ve also wasted our lives.

The Bible says in Romans 12:2, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” This verse is telling us indirectly that we cannot discern God’s will for our lives if we continue to embrace and act according to the patterns (or ways) of this world.

To engage in a false destiny, that is, to operate outside the Will of God is to waste life. And what is God’s Will? God’s Will is his Word—the Bible. And his Word clearly says that homosexuality is a sin. Sins, no matter the degree of severity, all deter us from living the life God has called us to. If someone is addicted to alcohol, it’s going to be hard for that person to function in society or in their personal lives. If someone is a murderer, they are prematurely cutting the life short of someone who had their own destiny. If someone even struggles with jealousy, they make themselves miserable and may even commit an act that hurts someone else, interfering with their destiny and the other person’s.

So why wouldn’t the sin of homosexuality be the same? By engaging sexually with the same gender and/or outside the sexual boundaries God has provided us, you are in one way or another changing your destiny and bringing limitation upon yourself. This could be by being with a partner who, as happy as they make you in your current state, isn’t the person you were meant to be with.

You may spend 20 years with them but God had planned for you to spend 20 years with an entirely different family. This could be by advocating so strongly for queer rights and becoming such a pillar in the community that you don’t ever pursue the career or the skills you were meant to pursue—a career that not only would’ve satisfied you but also would’ve brought more souls to Christ instead of deterring them from Christ which the queer community notoriously does. 

But the biggest thing I realized is that all these identities that we humans cling onto so tightly are worthless in the grand scheme of things. Ideally, a human spends 75+ years on this Earth, and then there’s eternity, where your identity as a queer person will no longer matter. Sexuality doesn’t exist in heaven. And in hell, I promise you, you will not be engaging in any loving relationships, parades, or consensual sex. This is something you’ll realize the moment you die, that everything you did and loved on Earth outside of God, was utterly meaningless. As James 4:14 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.”

If we had to compare the time we spend on Earth to eternity, relative to how we perceive time on Earth, it wouldn’t even be a second long. 

So we can’t let ourselves be deterred. We can’t let our destinies be changed, because the “second” that we spend here on Earth has eternal implications after death. And the enemy knows this, which is why he’ll make anything outside of God’s will look attractive, or not that bad, or even good. Whether it’s alcoholism, murder, jealousy, lying, or even homosexuality, so long as your destiny is changed, the enemy has accomplished his mission.